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“New year is a day, to tune the rhythm called SOUL, with best chords called EXPERIENCES and play the guitar called LIFE.” ~ Vikrmn

Early this morning I went for a walk and thought back over the past year.  Personally, I am thrilled that 2014 is now part of history.  That being said, the past twelve months were very much a learning experience for me.  Like all of us, I made mistakes.  However, I have no regrets.  I know I disappointed some, perhaps even wronged others and maybe could have done more to rectify certain situations.  I learned that friends can turn into strangers and people I thought I wouldn’t like are actually some of the best people I know.  I finally figured out that it is best to simply walk away from people who always seem angry and thrive on conflict. I know now the battle they are fighting has nothing to do with me, it has everything to do with them.   I hope that my family and friends will forgive me if I have hurt them in any way and will continue to be patient with me as I continue to work on myself in the coming years.

Gossip was alive and well in my little town during 2014. I used to hate being gossiped about, and of course, it still hurts a little.  But in the last few months, I came to the conclusion that I’m actually providing a service. I’m giving very boring, petty and insecure people something to talk about, and I’m all right with that.  I suppose I should thank them for making me the center of their world.  I once read that our reputation is what others think of us; character is what God knows of us. When you have spent what feels like an eternity trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you, then you must ask yourself if you have the problem or is it really them?  God does not make us try so hard, only enemies do.

I cannot control what people say or think about me – that is another thing I learned this year.   A friend of mine told me a few weeks ago ConfidenceQuotes540that insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.  I’m not certain those were his original words,  but they made me smile and there may be some truth in them.  I am a very confident person and have even been called intimidating.  I like who I am and am rather nonconforming.  Add to that my Italian/Sicilian heritage and you can begin to see why this bad-ass broad from California is often the topic of discussion in small town Alabama.   I swear more than I should, refuse to eat fried food or grits and still say “you guys” and will never say “Y’all”.  Yeah, I blend in just fine down here.

I’m beginning 2015 with a smile on my face.  I can truly say that I woke up happy.  We have to choose to be happy.  No one can do that for us.  And I truly begin each day with that thought in my head.  That doesn’t mean I have sunshine shooting out my ass and I skip about my day tossing fairy dust while riding a unicorn over rainbows.  But why not choose to be happy?   I no longer have the capacity to tolerate negativity and drama or those who need it for survival, I have far too many things to be happy about.  I have two of the most amazing kiddos a mom could ever ask for.  I have a group of crazy friends that have gone above and beyond helping me get through some very difficult times and I have two wonderful parents who have gone through fire for me and love me unconditionally.  I am beginning 2015 with a smile on my face because yes,  I am happy.  More importantly, I am blessed.

Auguri per un felice 2015.



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Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in your own skin. That, or a kick-ass red lipstick. ~Gwyneth Paltrow


What was the first thing that you thought of when read that word?  Chances are, you didn’t picture yourself.  You should have, because you are beautiful.   I loathe how society has programmed so many of us to believe that we have to look a certain way, wear certain clothes or be a size 0 to be considered beautiful.  Let’s get one thing straight, ‘zero’ is not a size.  Zero is defined as the arithmetical symbol denoting the absence of all magnitude or quantity. Baby, I Dove Beautycan promise your sweet ass I have magnitude and quantity – and in all the right places.  Am I cocky?  No, just confident.  This is how God made me.  Zero is also defined as an insignificant person or thing; a nonentity; the lowest point.  Ladies, we are none of those things and don’t let anyone or any magazine lead you to believe that you have to be a certain size to be beautiful.  I have girlfriends of every size, shape, race and color and they are all beautiful – and not just physically.  It’s their attitude, their spirit, their soul.  Being happy makes you beautiful.  We have to stop over analyzing ourselves, stop being so critical of ourselves.  Life is too damn short. I can honestly say that I’m happy with my body.  Yes, I would love to lose a few pounds and I do get on the scale once a week, but it doesn’t control my life.  I think that type of acceptance comes with age.  I can still rock a short skirt and stilettos and God willing, I’ll be doing the ‘cupid shuffle‘ in a nursing home one day while running my underground poker ring.  It’s all about attitude ladies – so get some!  Embrace your curves, own them, they are all yours.  I have yet to meet a man who wanted to put his arms around something skeletal.  

And ladies, stop diminishing compliments.  You know what I’m talking about. When someone tells you, “your hair looks great today“.  And you reply, “really?, no – I need to have my roots done and just look at these split ends.”  You are in fact, insulting the person that just gave you the compliment, you are disagreeing with them, implying that they were wrong to give you that compliment. All you have to say is ‘why, thank you‘ – and for God’s sake, smile when you say it.  People will begin to believe you if you are always putting yourself down, so stop that!  A positive attitude is very attractive, trust me on this.

All joking aside, please watch this video – I wish we could all see our true beauty, because we are all beautiful.  I had to leave the house the other dayMona Lisa sans makeup and I received three compliments from total strangers while I was out. I never saw what they saw, but maybe I need to look a little harder in the mirror, maybe we all do. The following video speaks volumes in only three minutes.  If you are a woman and you watch this, I challenge you not to be moved to tears like I just was.  While watching this video, keep in mind that the artist could not see the women, so he sketched pictures based on their descriptions of themselves.  He then created a second drawing based on a stranger’s description of the women. In all cases, the pictures created with stranger’s input were much more attractive.

“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.”  ~Sophia Loren

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April 18, 2013 · 10:09 am