What was the first thing that you thought of when read that word? Chances are, you didn’t picture yourself. You should have, because you are beautiful. I loathe how society has programmed so many of us to believe that we have to look a certain way, wear certain clothes or be a size 0 to be considered beautiful. Let’s get one thing straight, ‘zero’ is not a size. Zero is defined as the arithmetical symbol denoting the absence of all magnitude or quantity. Baby, I can promise your sweet ass I have magnitude and quantity – and in all the right places. Am I cocky? No, just confident. This is how God made me. Zero is also defined as an insignificant person or thing; a nonentity; the lowest point. Ladies, we are none of those things and don’t let anyone or any magazine lead you to believe that you have to be a certain size to be beautiful. I have girlfriends of every size, shape, race and color and they are all beautiful – and not just physically. It’s their attitude, their spirit, their soul. Being happy makes you beautiful. We have to stop over analyzing ourselves, stop being so critical of ourselves. Life is too damn short. I can honestly say that I’m happy with my body. Yes, I would love to lose a few pounds and I do get on the scale once a week, but it doesn’t control my life. I think that type of acceptance comes with age. I can still rock a short skirt and stilettos and God willing, I’ll be doing the ‘cupid shuffle‘ in a nursing home one day while running my underground poker ring. It’s all about attitude ladies – so get some! Embrace your curves, own them, they are all yours. I have yet to meet a man who wanted to put his arms around something skeletal.
And ladies, stop diminishing compliments. You know what I’m talking about. When someone tells you, “your hair looks great today“. And you reply, “really?, no – I need to have my roots done and just look at these split ends.” You are in fact, insulting the person that just gave you the compliment, you are disagreeing with them, implying that they were wrong to give you that compliment. All you have to say is ‘why, thank you‘ – and for God’s sake, smile when you say it. People will begin to believe you if you are always putting yourself down, so stop that! A positive attitude is very attractive, trust me on this.
All joking aside, please watch this video – I wish we could all see our true beauty, because we are all beautiful. I had to leave the house the other day sans makeup and I received three compliments from total strangers while I was out. I never saw what they saw, but maybe I need to look a little harder in the mirror, maybe we all do. The following video speaks volumes in only three minutes. If you are a woman and you watch this, I challenge you not to be moved to tears like I just was. While watching this video, keep in mind that the artist could not see the women, so he sketched pictures based on their descriptions of themselves. He then created a second drawing based on a stranger’s description of the women. In all cases, the pictures created with stranger’s input were much more attractive.
“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” ~Sophia Loren